Really common actually, especially the first couple times, the act of monitoring yourself can become its own activity that pulls you out of just exper...

For a lot of people some baseline awareness or respect for it doesnt fully disappear, and honestly thats probably a good thing, not somthing *somethin...

That's where i landed as well. i mostly wanted someone to say it out loud, id got it into my head that doing nothing meant i was doing it wrong..

agree with that, though I'd add planning ahead can cut down on anxiety buildup for some people, less time to spiral, and for others it's the opposite,...

Tell him its fine if it turns out to be a quiet uneventful evening and he mostly watches telly. that's not him failing at the job, thats the job going...

I always think setting gets underweighted next to the things people argue about. somewhere you know vs somewhere you dont isn't a small tweak.

the question id swap it for is "what is this for". evening, in tea, slowly, phone face down. framed that way a quiet warm half hour is the entire poin...

@EuroLex ok that makes sense. so whats the thing im meant to look for instead — is there anything a seller can actually show you, or do you just end u...

honestly good argument for treating it as a calm ritual, not a fixed thing you chase. if it lands differently every time, expecting a guaranteed Event...

i think of it as a small ritual more than an event, and from that angle its lovely. but if you need it to be dramatic to feel worth it, that mindset k...

@Cam yeah the swap question was exactly what i wanted to head off. the only useful bit of the comparison for me is the mindset — slow, intentional, no...

familiar place + someone there. thats the whole safety net really

Personal comparison: I use both for sleep and relaxation. Kava helps more with the mental/anxiety component — quiets a busy mind. Mad honey is more ph...

low light or a lamp instead of the big overhead. tiny thing, makes the whole room feel calmer. and pick the music (or nothing) before, not mid-way thr...